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I resonate so much with this... learning how to understand my own narrative around my parents and myself, and why it is so difficult to let go of the past, has been the bulk of my emotional growth as an adult. I still struggle with it, as they have gotten older and have regressed in some ways. But letting go of the learned helplessness is huge...

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I resonate with so much of what you say here. You have described the complicated dynamics of family and healing so well. A huge barrier for my own healing was trying to bypass the grief so that I didnt have to think badly of my parents. Ultimately I got to the empathy and forgiveness but it was a long road of resistance

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I love this cliff hanger! Can’t wait for the next section! I got to the end and said, “where’s the rest of this?” I have to wait…don’t you know I’m an American! I wish I was a better Christian…with patience. 😉

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Thank you for being vulnerable, Judy, and also for being wise in your knowledge and analysis. Your story reminds me of The Fearless Moral Inventory of Elsie Finch, by Lynn Byk. I'm glad you are not a survivor, but a thriver in the Christian meaning of abundance and community. Gosh! We need more like you!

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